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By Sheri Winston, CNM, RN, BSN, LMT
Mango Garden Press
One of my passions and concerns is how America has evolved into a sexualized nation that "uses" sex to sell just about anything on TV and works to reach our young children to bring them into this world, just to sell! At the same time, I believe these young children have no real idea about their own sexuality--they merely copy from what they learn from their peers or, again, from TV, movies and even books and magazines.
It is never too late to learn about your sexuality; it is never too early to learn either, with proper guidance!
Sheri Winston is head of The Center for the Intimate Arts and has the academic background the credentials I would look for when wanting to discuss sex. She also includes in the front of the book many testimonials from other experts in her field. That was also very important to me!
But most important, Sheri Winston supports a wholistic approach to Sexuality. Here is a summary of the Five Principles of Wholistic Sexuality:
- Wholistic Sexuality is first and foremost about your connection with yourself.
- Sex is about all the ways we connect with everyone and everything.
- We're on a lifelong journey of learning and discovery.
- Sexual and relationship skills can and need to be learned.
- Learning depends on accurate, useful models.(p. 44)
That's outstanding, isn't it?
So, where do women (and men) turn to find out how, when, and why our sexuality is so important to us? I was impressed with Winston's book and would wholeheartedly support it for those who are honestly seeking to find their way through the maze of "entertainment-type" learning that places sex right in the middle of all of the dramas of our lives.
You know what? This book is both fun and interesting. The author is not afraid to use those words that are "whispered" normally, nor is she ashamed to discuss each detail about the woman's body as it relates to her sexuality. There are extensive graphics and explanations. She includes historical information as well as those spiritual writings that first discussed and identified, for instance, the Yin (Masculine) and Yang (Feminine) energetic patterns; i.e., the estrogen and testosterone that we all have within us.
Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure by Sheri Winston included everything I could think of that I would want to have available to me. You know, though, that I must add a personal note...isn't it sad that most of our teachings in sexuality come from the ancient eastern civilizations and artists such as the one illustrated from the 1500s. Here we are in the year 2010, in a culture that uses sexual words as slang or rough daily talk. May each of you find your own path, perhaps through Sheri Winston's help!
By the way, there are hints and a chapter dedicated to men. I consider this a must-read for all women; and mothers--use it to help your daughters properly learn. Perhaps the most important is Honoring the Sacredness of Sex. (P. 204) I close with a brief look at the tools and skills of the Heart. (p. 181-182)
Witnessing, Open-Heartedness, Respect, Compassion and Forgiveness, Giving and Receiving, Loving Intention and Loving Action... Words quite different from that everyday F word, aren't they?
Book Provided by
Booth Media Group, Inc.
G. A. Bixler