Showing posts with label domestic violence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label domestic violence. Show all posts

Sunday, October 16, 2022

Republican Gomorrah: Inside the Movement That Shattered the Party, Part II, by Max Blumenthal


Vote Against Election Deniers 

Who Threaton Constitutional Freedoms!


Note that I did not purchase the book by James Dobson... Excerpt is from Republican Gomorrah...

Dobson’s manual, Dare to Discipline, read like a manifesto for domestic violence when it finally appeared in 1970. He urged parents to beat their young children, preferably with a “neutral object” such as a belt or a rod, lest they turn into drug-addled longhairs. He also advised administering a healthy spanking every now and again. “A little bit of pain goes a long way for a young child,” Dobson wrote. “However, the spanking should be of sufficient magnitude to cause the child to cry genuinely. After the emotional ventilation, the child will often want to crumple to the breast of his parent, and he should be welcomed with open, warm, loving arms.” For parents struggling with children who refused to cooperate in public, Dobson recommended a slightly less vigorous technique than spanking. “There is a muscle, lying snuggly against the base of the neck [and] whenfirmly squeezed, it sends little messengers to the brain saying, ‘This hurts; avoid recurrence at all costs.’” Dobson instructed his readers to firmly pinch the necks not only of their own sons and daughters, but of the inadequately disciplined children of complete strangers as well. “It can be utilized in countless situations where face-to-face confrontations occur between child and adult,” Dobson said of his technique. To reinforce his advice, Dobson offered an anecdote that read as though it were lifted from the script of Dirty Harry (in which he used his strength to overpower a young teen who was attacking an older man.) 

When Dobson updated his child-rearing advice in his 1992 manual The Strong-Willed Child, he extended his advocacy of corporal punishment to unruly household pets.

To Dobson, children were to be treated no differently than dogs. Both were preternaturally prone to rebellion, so both should be “crushed” with violent force.

By about this time, I felt sick to my stomach as I soon began to realize that this man was instigating violence within the home and without...in order to respond to authority/orders... And that he used the organization he led to send out letters that "told his family" how to vote... The story continued that this was about the time of the Kent State murders and a group of hard-hat rioters started a murderous riot which was later learned to be instigated by Nixon's special counsel, Colson...

Can we make a firm hypothesis that between 1970 and and around 2000, the indoctrination of violence rather than love to train our children had been firmly implemented in many homes across America. 

By the summer of 1973, Colson was preparing for his trial for obstruction of justice. With the prosecution preparing its case against him and the press corps homing in on his role in the Watergate break-in, Colson knelt on the floor with his friend Raytheon CEO Tom Phillips. While Colson fought back tears in an embarrassed state of silence, Phillips prayed for his soul. Driving through Washington afterward, Colson suddenly began to cry “tears of release.” 

“I repeated over and over the words, Take me . . . ” Colson wrote in his best-selling memoir, Born Again. “Something inside me was urging me to surrender.” Soon after, Colson sought out Dobson and Francis Schaeffer as prayer partners. When Colson finally came to Jesus, he became America’s best-known born-again Christian, lending exposure to a cultural phenomenon erupting below the radar of the mainstream press and secular America. In the Washington Post, columnist Nicholas Von Hoffman mocked his conversion as a cynical ploy, panning it as “a socially approved way of having a nervous breakdown.” While Colson appeared to remove himself from politics, he quietly planned a strategy to regain his former influence...

Of course, Colson may have indeed been changed... but he also then moved to regain his former influence and power... And, Colson went on to work within prisons for reform, based upon some promised instantaneous miracle... and his scifi book Gideon's Torch seens little more than a preliminary conceptual planning for the January 6th attack. Not surprisingly, Gideon’s Torch became a recruiting tool for those wishing to realize its fictional narrative. It has been excerpted at length on the website of the "Army of God," a radical anti-abortion group responsible for the killing and bombing of abortion providers. 

When Dobson first entered public life, his understanding of politics was amateur at best. Colson became his counsel, providing him with high-level Republican contacts and help devising a strategy to transform his growing flock into an influential political bloc. Colson could never have fulfilled the strategy on his own. Indeed, no figure in the burgeoning evangelical movement shared Dobson’s psychological understanding of his audience on an intimate level. Only Dobson recognized events such as the hard-hat riot as integral parts of a gathering backlash against liberalism. His advocacy of corporal punishment was carefully intended to channel the violent backlash in the streets into a coherent grassroots movement with himself as its guru. Dobson’s teachings resonated on a profound level with the backlashers. By 1976, Dare to Discipline had been reprinted eighteen times and sold over a million copies. His success propelled him into the rapidly expanding evangelical broadcast industry. Dobson’s new radio show and ministry, "Focus on the Family," became immensely popular as well. Now, the followers eager to implement his harsh methods had grown into a belt-wielding army of millions. Corporal punishment was back with a vengeance. 

Philip Greven, a professor of history at Rutgers University and a leading expert on Protestant religious thought, is one of the few researchers of American conservatism who has recognized the impact of corporal punishment on the sensibility of movement members. In his incisive book Spare the Child: The Religious Roots of Punishment and the Psychological Impact of Physical Abuse, Greven analyzed Dare to Discipline in detail, concluding that Dobson’s violent child-rearing methods served an underlying purpose, producing droves of activists embarked on an authoritarian mission. “The persistent ‘conservatism’ of American politics and society is rooted in large part in the physical violence done to children,” Greven wrote. “The roots of this persistent tilt towards hierarchy, enforced order, and absolute authority—so evident in Germany earlier in this century and in the radical right in America today—are always traceable to aggression against children’s wills and bodies, to the pain and the suffering they experience long before they, as adults, confront the complex issues of the polity, the society, and the world.”

While Dobson worked with the psychological issues of aggression and more, he twisted it into a period of "purity" during which any individual must reveal their deepest darkest secrets before they could become a "member" of his family... The problem with this was, of course, that there is a difficult, if not an impossible issue with both allowing violence to be the controlling factor while at the same time demanding a level of purity and submission to a dominant... Certainly, this was never what Jesus had ever asked of us, especially when He gave us Our Free Will...

Yet, the movement grew and grew and a future plan of action was installed:  ... would stop gun control, outlaw abortion, limit the rights of homosexuals, curb contraception, end the constitutional separation of church and state, and adopt the Ten Commandments as guiding principles for public schools.”

And what happens when you have power--the power of a group of people--a cult--who will follow directions from their leader? Well, heading directly into influencing the political structure is a key part of fulfilling their goals, isn't it?

Are you aware that every single president through the election where Obama was elected (and which ended the book time coverage) has been forced to seek top-down authority to even choose what and who would be running with you?

Take for instance John McCain. Many of us would have already heard that he had originally wanted to choose a democratic senator to be his VP... This is true... What you may not know is that the far right only considered him because they forced him to take Palin as his VP running mate... "She" was the one they supported, not one of the greatest republican leaders that we all respected...

And when Obama attempted to meet with Dobson??? He was refused even one meeting... I guess that shows exactly what Dobson was all about...doesn't it? 

Of course, there are many other corrupt activities that were exposed, not the least of which was that there are more divorces and teenage pregnancies in this group than in any other... Frankly, I didn't even want to throw all of that crap into my discussion, but it's there...

I saw enough, like Roger Stone being involved early on in this movement, to form a conclusion that what was being written had a basis for exactly what is now happening... The Shattering of the Republic Party... Surely no longer standing on solid ground...


Full Disclosure: This author has been seen as writing about conspiracy theories and can be possibly discounted by some...

That doesn't bother me. He is writing about authoritarian type regimes and we happen to be one of those at the moment, from the inside...

Nobody can question that the republican party has constantly refused to work to respond to the nation-wide cry for gun control, and in particular the banning of military-style rifles...

Nobody can question that the use of violence, bias, prejudice, and lies has become a part of the people running for political office and that they are extreme in their positions of working to control power...

What I know is this: Jesus gave His Life to ransom all who call upon His name...He died that we might live in love for all...and in love for God...

I did not come to Christ as a matter of personal crisis, but because of what He offered to Us...His Gifts of Love and Truth...

This book gave me the answer to my question of WHY?

I pray that, as God as He promised, those who love him will not be damaged because pride has gone before the fall... 

The constitution speaks for our government.
God Speaks for Love and Truth...

God Bless Us All
Gabbie



SEEK TRUTH 

Saturday, September 8, 2018

Guy Graybill Presents Intoxication Nation: Age-Old Problem Receives Contemporary New Examination...





I was honored to have the opportunity to read this new book before it was published. As I considered the early historical pictures, it came to me how this age-old problem still cries out for attention and action. That is exactly what the author is seeking!

About the time I was reading the manuscript, I was struck by the news covering the case of a young man, in a hazing case, who was killed because of excess alcohol consumption. Sadly, this is not a unique situation on college campuses, nor is it only through hazing that it occurs. A young teen now hosts a blog alerting readers about her willingness to binge and in doing so, almost died, or could have been brain-dead.

Graybill writes in his chapter, Frats, Vats and Stats, that drinking and its results make this environment one of the most dangerous places for young adults, noting, Colleges make college towns unique. Alcohol makes them colorful...and sometimes deadly. The author then proceeds to provide actual, researched, stories to support each situation. Quoting Carla Johnson of the Associated Press, it was explained that underage college students who have never tried alcohol before college are more likely to have it for the first time when they arrive. Finding that about 1200 underage students per day first drink alcohol, even acquiring the skills to create fake IDs to do so...


Introduction

Regarding an Innocent term: alcohol

When considering a title for this polemic, the author considered the similarity between the term for an international Arab terrorist organization--al Qaeda--and alcohol, the term for the many strong drinks that Americans consume in such staggering quantities, for this work. I considered taking the liberty to change the spelling of the damnable potion to Al Qohol, to remind readers of the deadliness of the liquid that kills thousands of Americans every single year...before 2001 and since Readers may be surprised to find that the very word, aocohol, is from the Arab, al-coh'l. How fortuitous! That makes the author's intended use of the slight corruption, Al Qohol, to be a reasonable intention.

However, the use of the variant, Al Qohol, has been abandoned, to be certain that we are not insulting innocent members of the Arab world, many of whom have been very highly regarded for their moral, cultural and academic leadership. The author proclaims profound admiration for members of every culture in the univeerse, just as he reviles all the jackasses--fanatic or faithless, Occidental or Oriental, drunken or sober--who abuse their fellow humans. Further, if this year is like other years, the world will witness--through bloodshot eyes--about two million alcohol-related deaths!  

May the catalog of horrors begin...
~~~

Graybill has a keen interest in various issues. You may recall his books Bravo!
and Whimsy and Wry, both of which I've enjoyed and shared selections from in this blog. But he has also written two books about prohibition and other nonfiction books. It is common for him to insert interesting reader-provoking sidebars such as he has done with his "Sober Slogan" boxes found throughout the narrative such as: #1 Our two alcohol problems: A. Underage drinking and B. Overage drinking... Even providing case after case of horrendous actions, he writes with a witty sarcasm that will grab you and chastise anyone who dares to disagree with the reality of what alcohol consumption has done to our nation.

One simple, but effective way is that he calls public drunkards-cum terrorists as he reports on the various terroristic deaths via DUIs. How apropos that we immediately see a terrorist as he attacks school children or concert goes with guns...but daily watch death on the roadways via drunkards with little or no thought to act...

Of the deadliest are those who drink while driving!


Ethanasia?
According to a Time website (by the way all references of research are provided within the narrative as well as a complete index.) a Texas teen, Ethan Couch, is from a very affluent family. In 2013, he and several friends stole some beer. He jumped into his Ford F150 pickup truck and took off, with a couple of his friends in the bed of the truck. When he smashed his truck into a woman whose vehicle was broken down on the roadway, the woman and three others at the scene were killed! Also, two of his buddies were critically injured, with one, Sergio Molina, unable to speak or move. The teen admitted to driving drunk and to losing control of his machine. Did this liquored teen bring deadly terror to a Texas roadway?
Some people must learn the hard way, but what did this teen learn? He learned that if he steals beer and drives while intoxicated, and causes friends to be horribly injured and four strangers killed, he needs a skilled attorney and an injudicious judge. How somber was the music he faced? The trial became a nationally celebrated court case when the deadly teen's attorney told the court that the youth came from a wealthy family and, therefore, had no sense of right or wrong... and it goes on!

Another unfortunate abuse area is domestic violence, including date rape, and other types of subterfuge where victims have no opportunity to prevent their abusive attacks! Not all may be associated with alcohol but many are!






After a thorough exploration of where we have come in America, Graybill turns our minds and heart to the Constitution. How often we are speaking of what the Constitution provides for us in these chaotic days! And the author starts right at the beginning:
We the people of the United States, in order to form a more perfect Union, establish justice, insure domestic Tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general welfare, and secure the blessings of liberty to ourselves and our posterity do ordain and establish this constitution for the United States of America.

Once again...focus! Did  you notice that our government leaders have all been derelict? They have given no notice to the highlighted passages of our national Constitution's Preamble.

The fact is that a small percentage of Americans--who drink excessively--are responsible for violating the constitutional rights due to all of us! Daily, not every once in a while, but daily, drunkenness definitely destroys the domestic tranquility that we all have the right to. The sad part is that, just as drugs have now become deadly to Americans, those responsible for nation-wide control have failed. Given the opioid crisis that is now publicized in today's news, this, too, will become part of the alcohol addictive crisis that has already become deadly and statistically kills more Americans than those in military war activities.

Why should the few continue to act as terrorists on the streets and in the homes of American families, while nothing is done to protect those who become the victims of these few individuals who routinely cause the death of thousands and millions?

This is not the first cry against alcoholism. But this book, coming out now when more individuals are speaking out about sexual abuse, drug addictions of opioids, we cannot afford to not also spotlight the terrorists who daily drive our streets, or drink and abuse their families or friends...or strangers. If alcohol is part of your household, I highly recommend you read this book and consider how the use of alcohol is being used in your home. If it has become excessive, now is the time to start speaking out. The book has an extensive bibliography to provide additional information beyond this book, which the publisher has declared The Best Temperance Book Ever Written.

My own blurb on the back cover shares my first and immediate reaction to reading the numerous terrifying stories: How many ways can Alcohol Kill?" might well be the subtitle of Guy Graybill's latest book, Intoxication Nation! The author takes readers through researched specific case results of deaths, sexual assaults, and more. Reading like an actual news special investigative study, Graybill shares horrific details, at the same time adding witty sarcasm--urging personal and political action! GAB 

Now, I highly recommend it to those who seek a better and safer America that can be found when those who "choose" to drink also "choose" to act out in criminal ways are required to be penalized. This takes political action... Consider this an important topic as you decide who you vote for in the upcoming and future elections!


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Guy Graybill is the author of KEYSTONE, BRAVO!, PROHIBITION'S PRINCE, PRINCE AND THE PAUPERS, WHIMSY AND WRY and FROST!
Guy attended rural Pennsylvania schools and graduated from Gettysburg College with a degree in History.
Guy Graybill worked in a Pennsylvania state capital mail room, in a brick plant, in the Geisinger Medical Center (Danville, PA) and in schools in Aguilar, Colorado (one year) and Loganton, Pennsylvania (two years). His career position was three decades in Middleburg, PA as a secondary History teacher. After retiring from Middleburg, he was elected to a four-year term as chairman of the board of commissioners of Snyder County.
Guy Graybill is proud of the support he has received from individuals who wrote the forewords to his books. They include a man who is now Budget Secretary to the governor of Pennsylvania, a Philadelphia opera singer, and a former speechwriter to five U.S. presidents.
Other than writing, Guy Graybill's hobbies include travel, amateur archaeology and photography. Guy has traveled in more than 40 of the U.S. states, as well as Japan, Okinawa, Canada and Guatemala. He conducted one local archaelogy project for the 1976 U.S. Bicentennial observance and his photographs have appeared on greetings, postal cards, and more than 100 covers of small magazines. 

Two samples of rhymes from Whimsy and Wry follow:

The following title comes from 
the word, 'century' that Nostradamus 
used to identify a group of his verses.
It seems especially appropriate following
the Mayan Doomsday silliness.

CENTURIES

The fabled Nostradamus
Fooled simple-minded hacks,
With riddles that were riddled
With trash instead of facts.

Yet, ev'ry generation
Construes his mutant rhymes
In ways that fit their motives
And SEEM to match the times.

The truly thoughtful person
Will always be content,
To save each grand prediction
'Til AFTER the event.

]]] [[[

AN ACT OF SELF DEFENSE

Her smile is a rebel smile.
She knows the disarming art.
Her lips bring to light her guile:
A threat to my sov'reign heart.

Before my defiance slips,
I'll show that her threat is known.
I'll siege those rebellious lips,
To crush them beneath my own!

]]] [[[ 

Copyright, Guy Graybill

Thursday, January 8, 2015

Sanctuary Presents "The Good Lawyer" Who Scorns Fair Legal Representation...

Dani headed to the conference room where she saw the guard standing outside. He opened the door, went in first, and left her closing the door behind.
"Why didn't you ask for bail?" Rocky demanded.
"I have looked at your bank records Mr. Evons and knew you didn't have it," Dani replied.
"So, how are you going to get me off?" he wanted to know.
"I'm not," Dani replied. "We're going to ask for a plea agreement."
"The hell we are," Rocky shouted.
"Listen to me, Mr. Evons," Dani's calm voice seemed to reach him.
"Okay," he agreed.
"This is your third offense," Dani began. "The judge is going to want to throw away the key. If you change your plea to guilty. I think I can get the prosecution to go for a sentence of ten to fifteen years. Meaning you would serve between five and seven and be eligible for parole."
"If I go to trial, what do I get?" Rocky wanted to know.
"If you are found guilty, the maximum sentence which is twenty-five to life," Dani told him.
"What I gotta do?" Rocky wanted to know.
"Sign this paper," Dani said handing him paper and a pen, "I'll see the prosecutor gets it today and we should be able to get credit for the time you've already served."
"Sounds sweet, I'm in," Rocky said as he signed the paper in front of him.
Dani took the paper and pen, put them in her briefcase, walked to the door where she knocked and stood back. The guard entered.
"We are done here, thank you," she said and left the room..."
~~~

Hide from the Past...
Sanctuary: A Macy McVannel Mystery
Run From the Future

By Rebecka Vigus

When I was working for a small publishing company, we received a submission of a novel. I loved it. The publisher was totally against it, stating that the author had not done his fact-checking of known events and places. Probably everybody knows that I love a good story... But the publisher's guidance had sunk in. Either a book is fantasy and results from the imagination of a writer, or it is reality-based and should be based upon the setting created in which the characters live. Thus, I found I was forcing myself to read this book through. The further I read, the more irritated I got... for a variety of reasons. 

First, it is not a mystery--This drama reads straight through and had absolutely no mystery twists to be solved in the story. But that is minor in comparison to the story line. A second somewhat minor issue on the writing style of the author is that she writes with repetitive sentences...that is, many sentences repeat some part of the previous sentence. This style slows the story down with unnecessary duplicate words... This may be a personal issue from my background writing and editing. My personal preference is the rule that each word should move the story forward. This helps to eliminate the slowdown and, often growing boredom of reading...

First I was suckered in by the main character, having come back to a house in which she had grown up and immediately starting to work on a secret hideout that was once used for the Underground Railroad for slaves moving to the north. Now she planned to also become a part of an underground group that helped battered women and/or children get away.

She was having this secret hideout totally renovated so that individuals could stay hidden inside her own home and be able to eat, cook, live in total security... What a wonderful idea... I was loving the story...

Montgomery has set up her office in the home as well. The housekeeper/cook who was there was retained and she soon hired an older woman who needed a job when her former boss died. She soon became indispensable and became involved in the secret work... When her niece became a victim, so, too, did the housekeeper. There are additional characters that come in to the story who, it would appear, should have known the legalities of what was happening, given their professions...


Montgomery had once been involved with a local man who was now a contractor and they were trying to decide whether they could get back together romantically while he acted to work on the secret location renovation...

Now, here's the kicker. Montgomery heads to court and signs up to pro bono represent the husbands!

She gets them to enter into a plea bargain and sends them off to jail...

Ok, wait a minute... Yes, they do deserve jail time, probably... And it was repeat offenses by that time. But a lawyer that represents them, should not also be working, even in secret, with their wives. In essence, she sets the woman up in her safe home, starts divorce proceedings and a new life plan...

While she sends the husband to jail, even lying to them once, after she had verified information that she didn't later share with the husband... There were three different cases in the book, so this was a deliberate decision by the writer and not an editing error, in my opinion...

Soooo, next I went to the acknowledgments section of the book to see the routine thanks to various people for helping them with the details of their book. Nothing there...  Her background does not reference any legal training...

This story is totally implausible. And the disclaimer on the back cover wondering whether it was even legal does not forgive the absence of reality in today's legal system.

Here's what I found with one simple research question:

A lawyer cannot represent both a husband and wife in a divorce case. - See more at: http://www.legalaidofnebraska.com/node/96/divorce-handbook#sthash.REsY0vXv.dpuf

Adding domestic violence complicates this even more, since the lawyer must be an expert...well that's enough for me to verify my own thoughts about the ethics of The Good Lawyer in this book... 

What is sad about this is that there are many women out there who are in need of help in this terrible situation. This fictional novel is actually misleading since it seems so very easy to "get out" of the situation... And that a lawyer can easily remove the women from the situation they are in...

This could have been an important book. It should have been an important book. Instead it is merely the imagination of a novice who has taken no real interest--not even enough to do the proper research--in an important social women's issue, except for the personal satisfaction she will have gained.

I do not support this book or author to anybody. Our legal system may be flawed but everybody, including wife-beating husbands, deserves fair representation, including pro bono work, in my opinion. That's also my limited expertise gained by watching hundreds of Law and Order episodes... LOL


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Tuesday, January 24, 2012

A "heartwarming, real, passionate and often hilariousl" Read! Plus Excellent Writing!

"TUESDAY" production signImage by Vaguely Artistic via Flickr
"They made her a Driving to Florida Long
Journey Room Survival Kit..."
tuesday night miracles


Kris Radish




This book touched me personally, but having worked for over 40 years and meeting a lot of women in both professional and social settings, I earlier stated that I wished I could get this book into the hands of every woman. After finishing it, I still feel the same way, and maybe even more so. I would also recommend it for men, even though all of the primary characters are women since readers will also see how husbands involved with those women reacted. Read the blurb of the book for more specific info; I do not want to share much of the book itself so readers will have the benefit of learning along with the group member characters...


Even more so, both men and women are susceptible to the stresses of today's world. Yes, those stresses often become too much to handle. We know about some of the results by learning about domestic violence and other actions that "make the news" but I know there are many times that nobody knows what has or is happening to a woman or man who is trying to face her life situations and deal with them--trying to make it through...

I had never read Radish before, but find the titles of her other books quite intriguing. Nor do I know her professional background as I began to read, but I found her lead character, Dr. Olivia Bayer totally realistic and knowledgeable in her role as a clinical psychologist. Tuesday Night is the night that most of the group sessions for Dr. Bayer's latest mandated court were held for four women who had, as they say today, snapped...

"The beds are against the back wall in all three cells, which are identical. There's a toilet at what any sane
person would use as the foot of the bed, and it's screened from the cell across from it by a huge metal sink.
The thick brown walls are cracked at the top and appear to be solid concrete.
Leah places her ear against the wall to her right, thinking that perhaps voices were trapped inside the
last time the place was painted.
"Who do you two think stayed in these cells?" she asks, keeping her ear to the wall.
Both Kit and Grace reach out to touch one of the walls. They are cold, and whatever traces of life were
left her have long since been painted over, scrubbed off, erased...
Before she {Dr. Bayer} turns to leave, Kit blurts out, "Are there any ghosts in here?"
Each of the women are facing criminal charges for what they did and will be put in jail if they fail to complete an anger management class and associated requirements. But there is something different with this class. Dr. Bayer has been considering retirement and, perhaps, is being pushed to do so. She wants to discard traditional group session methods and try what she believes is a better model. She agrees with her boss that if the class doesn't work, she will definitely retire...

The only thing I wondered at the end of the book is whether her process is actually being used--or whether it is only the writer's imagination that created it. I found myself slowly being pulled into the activities, not actually stopping to do them, but to stop and ponder my own reactions. What I do know is that this book will not be one that I read and pass on. Right now I've already made some life decisions based upon the book and believe that I'll be referring to the book over and over.

It has been my experience that many women, and men snap during their daily lives. It may be a minor incident or, worse, a series of small incidents will make an individual sad or angry...and the feelings resulting from those incidents will build up to what can be a major event, such as taking physically aggressive actions as the women in the book did... It is my personal opinion that, in today's world, we have all experienced some form of stress-related response to someone else's action. If you know this to be true for yourself, or even have considered that you could reach the point of saying or acting out on your feelings, then I highly recommend you read Tuesday Night Miracles and see if you find yourself there, like I did, or feel that you just might one day see yourself in a similar situation...

This is fiction; however, I felt it was or could be a self-help type of book if you need it to be. Are you sad, angry, agitated, afraid, screaming, drinking...whatever...at times? Please....read this book if you use similar adjectives to describe your personal feelings. And God Bless...

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Biography

Kris Radish grew up dreaming about living a Nancy Drew-like life and always held her own passion for writing very close to her heart. A former journalist, nationally syndicated columnist, magazine writer and university instructor, Radish also loves to tell stories about the times she picked nighcrawlers, served beer to cowboys, worked on a tomato farm and hung out of the side of a fast moving helicoper. Radish is now the bestselling author of six novels and has captured the hearts of legions of fans with her heartwarming, real, passionate and often hilarious novels. Her stories focus on the important bonds of female friendship and celebrate the common feelings, heartaches, loves, and struggles that all women share. She loves to call her work "true fiction" because she addresses the real emotions that women live and share every day. She is also the author of two non-fiction books, writes poetry, is the mother of two young and very fiesty adults, is known for her wild laugh and wilder hair, and is working on her seventh novel.

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Friday, September 16, 2011

A Must_Read for Court Officials, Police, Legislators...Those Concerned About Domestic Violence!

THE CYCLE OF VIOLENCE...
A WOMAN IS BEATEN EVERY NINE
SECONDS IN THIS COUNTRY... SPOUSAL
MURDERS ACCOUNT FOR ONE EIGHTH
OF ALL HOMICIDES IN THE US...
NEARLY ALL THE VICTIMS OF
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ARE WOMEN...
BATTERED WOMEN COME FROM ALL
RACES, CLASSES, AGE GROUPS,
EDUCATIONAL AND RELIGIOUS
BACKGROUNDS. (p. 2)


The Safehouse




By T. Thomas Ackerman








It’s been several days since I finished The Safehouse and yet the dramatic irony of this novel haunts me. It is unsettling that I cannot find a satisfactory conclusion, a feeling that this story has ended. Perhaps it was that the author wrote in what might be used in a true crime novel—concise, straight-forward, factual manner, with little strong emotional impact at appropriate times...


In the midst of anguish and turmoil, the fear and h
ate that develops during violent attacks, there is only time for emotional reaction. But once away from the abuse, what then?

"No!" Alison shouted as she put one arm
over her eyes and started to cry.
Then he slapped her face. "Don't let me find
out that you are!" he hollered as he got up...
"Please God, no," she said as she continued
to cry. After a few seconds she turned and
opened the drawer to her nightstand. Out of
it she took the card that Jessie had given her.
Detective Jessie Warren is a cop assigned as liaison for all domestic issues. Having her own personal history of an abusive relationship, she has become a vigilant advocate for women and children and faithfully attends to their needs.

Domestic violence normally is an ongoing activity. Often Jessie has been called to a home a number of times, and becomes familiar with the families involved. She helps make arrangements and provides everything necessary to get women and children to a shelter, to court... But, sometimes she gets there too late...

Sometimes after a wife has left, the husband will begin to follow until they find where they are staying. It is at that time that Jessie discusses the need to move on to The Safehouse...
Domestic Violence, as shown in these drawings that are now in the public domain has been going on for ages...This crime is not new. "With all of the increased public awareness, the domestic violence occurrences never seemed to lessen. It always seemed...that the number of incidents increased. The laws and all the promises weren't working, at least not for the victims. It was clear...that if any of these women were ever going to have a chance at a normal life, she [Jessie] would have to help them find it, no matter what that would involve." 

The Safehouse is not the normal type of shelter. Few people ever stay there. Anybody who follows visitors there will never abuse anybody else... 

Is this the only way to end domestic violence? Many may think so...

This book should be considered must reading for all court officials, police officers, and legislators. Do we, as a nation, as a world, want to see The Safehouse truly being the only answer? I hope not...

But...you and each person reading this book will have to decide... You know, I watch Law & Order, SVU all the time and have often sympathized with the officers who must deal with this issue day after day... Until I read this book, I never knew that I could not, though, empathize with them...I hope I would not be Jessie...but...

After studying Alison's face for a few seconds
more and then running a finger down the deceased
woman's cheek, Jessie left. On her way back to the
station she kept seeing Alison's face. It was obvious
that this case was bothering her more than usual,
more than other cases had bothered her. Maybe
John Larsen reminded her of her husband. A man
she once loved. A husband that she had to get rid of
before she ended up like Alison...

GABixlerReviews

Saturday, March 13, 2010

Review: Alma Hudson's Second Book Dedicated to Women Struggling With Domestic Violence...

The Trouble with

Change



By Alma Hudson
Eloquent Books
ISBN: 9781608608003
105 Pages





Do you know the difference between a dream and a nightmare? Alma Hudson does! Her dream was shared with us in Checkered Fences. However, her second book, The Trouble With Change will speak to more readers. In today’s world, nightmares often occur more often than a beautiful dream, sad to say.

Hudson’s book is dedicated to all the women struggling with domestic violence...

The Introduction of her book reminded me of my favorite Psalm 121. Let me share just a few lines of these beautiful words:

I can’t help but lift up my head and look to the sky.
For above lies my one true love...
Here I stand through life’s changes and adversities.
This is my story of my first storm. (p. 1)

Sondra had won an academic scholarship for the University of Southern California. However, she soon realized that there were many more expenses than she had earlier considered. She was hungry most of the time. In fact, she met her neighbor Vick because he was hosting a party and she could smell the food and couldn’t pass it by. He quickly saw how fast she was eating and he offered her the key to his apartment, telling her to come over any time, cook and leave a plate for him since he came home late.

At first she refused, but then...well, that’s how it started... In fact, an offer of lunch also got her into another touchy situation where a man actually molested her but fortunately she was able to get away.

Months went past quickly as she and Vick settled into a routine; she cooking for him. However, Vick started coming home earlier and finally one evening tried to force her into having sex. When she refused, he apologized, bringing her flowers home. But a closer relationship did develop and they started dating and about a year later, he asked her to marry him. It was then that he brought up going home to Alabama, because his mother was scheduled to have surgery for glaucoma.

But Vick became a different person in Alabama...

His mother moved into the home of her parents and allowed Vick and Sondra to live in her home, especially during the surgery and recuperation. Interestingly, Sondra quickly became involved with Vick’s family and was quickly accepted and loved. But Vick quickly got into the same business there—prostitution, drugs, and drinking, which led to the first time he started beating Sondra. Soon she realized that he enjoyed violence as a part of sex.

One good thing came from their relationship. She gave birth to her beautiful daughter Patrice...

Only to have Vick begin to use Patrice to dominate Sondra even more, including having her guarded during his absences so she could not take Patrice and leave!

But Vick had never realized his wife was an intelligent, brave, and praying woman. Readers, I applaud this gutsy lady’s story! It’s one of those that you read and say, “You Go Girl!” Her ending may not be the same as yours, but if you are in a domestic violence situation, this book is a must-read! Alma Hudson’s The Trouble With Change will help you find the strength to do what you need to do. For all others readers, read this story based upon true life to find a wonderfully courageous woman and spend a little time getting to know her like I have. You’ll be glad you did!

G. A. Bixler