Showing posts with label aging. Show all posts
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Tuesday, December 8, 2015

Welcome John C. Robinson, Author of BREAKTHROUGH, a Challenge to Today's Aging!


Good Morning, today John C. Robinson, clinical psychologist, minister and author who writes and speaks about the psychology and spirituality of aging, is here at Book Readers Heaven via an email interview and discussion. Insofar as possible, I try to provide the author with questions or comments regarding his/her book and then also give another chance to review any further responses I have. Time is necessarily a factor, but I try to provide my review first, followed by the discussion, which appears as questions...

So you might want to check out my review which was published yesterday before you begin reading our discussion.

While this is a novel, it is fiction based upon non-fiction. So, as usual, I looked at the credentials of the writer as I began to read... 

First, here is a link to his website--http://www.johnrobinson.org/ He has a list of his publications and tells quite a bit of what he's been involved with for many years. Because his work directly relates to his novel, I am including his bio in its entirety since it will help readers getting into the discussion... And please feel free to add questions or comments below. I will forward to the author and seek his feedback to be added later.

Biography

Tree of Life Quilt Design

I am a clinical psychologist with a second doctorate in ministry, ordained interfaith minister, author, husband and father. I started writing books about psychology and spirituality at midlife and I couldn’t stop. Looking back now, I am beginning to see the larger design of my work, like one of my wife’s quilts when it’s hung, all the pieces finally in place, the design evident. Quite without planning, I have been following a single vision of life that I am certain is true, though I can take no credit for it. As music comes through a

composer, this vision came through me.


I wrote Death of a Hero, Birth of the Soul -- a description of the male midlife passage -- while dealing with my own midlife and specializing with men’s issues in my psychology practice. The book argued that the central developmental task men faced in their forties was to replace the traditional model of manhood -- driven, competitive, soul-numbing and exhausting, with a deeper and truer model, one that unleashes the true self and its gifts. This first book also hinted at the possibility of one day living in the divine world, an experience forgotten since theologians convinced the Western World that we had been expelled from the Garden for some mythical figure’s "Original Sin."

I then moved more deeply into the spiritual realm. Intuiting that psychotherapy was only half the solution to psychological problems, I wrote But Where Is God? Psychotherapy and the Religious Search. It was meant for psychotherapists of all stripes who either left spirituality out of their work (often dismissing its insights as irrelevant or even pathological) or inadvertently (and unethically) imposed their own spiritual beliefs on their clients. I wanted to heal the split between the defiantly empirical medical model and the sometimes rigid theologies of religion. I knew that psychology more fully appreciated the dark side of religion (the reality of sexual scandals, religiously-rationalized child abuse, spiritual addictions) and that religion better appreciated the forgotten spiritual side of healing (the value of prayer, the healing of Presence, and the importance of ultimate questions).

After envisioning a spiritually-oriented psychotherapy, I wrote Ordinary Enlightenment: Experiencing God’s Presence in Everyday Life, for I longed to understand the nature of Presence and how to experience it. By the time the book was completed, I knew firsthand what God’s Presence felt like and how it changes us. I had entered the realm of mysticism -- the direct experience of divinity -- and began to see how this experience can transfigure the world in the most extraordinary ways.

The mystics from across time and religion often talk about seeing Heaven on Earth. They say that Heaven is already here when we are awake enough to see it, and that this awakening occurs in the experience of the Presence. As I found more and more evidence of this universal realization, I was thrilled and amazed -- Heaven on Earth seems to the best-kept secret of the spiritual life! I wondered, "Why doesn’t everyone and every religion talk about this?" I explored this amazing theme in Finding Heaven Here.

Then, as I started to age, I sensed that growing older continues this same unfolding transformation of consciousness that had begun with midlife. More than that, I realized that aging itself offers the highest levels of spiritual realization if we understand and surrender to its powerful energies. The Three Secrets of Aging describes these energies as initiation, transformation and revelation and argues that they are intrinsic to natural aging. Moreover, as advances in medicine, nutrition and public health increased the average life span by nearly thirty years, we are now witnessing the unfolding of an entirely new stage of life.

Hoping to make this vision of aging more accessible (and more fun), I wrote Bedtime Stories for Elders: What Fairy Tales Can Teach Us About the New Aging. Drawing on ten old and new fairy tales from around the world, I invite older folks (just like me) to discover the three secrets of aging in symbolic parables.

It should be evident by now that the vision I have been following represents the call of a profound developmental process driving the second half of life. Aging is changing me, revealing an essence I had long sensed but couldn’t get at until time, loss, and love broke loose the façade I had created so many years ago. In aging, I return to a sacred consciousness that now welcomes me home to myself.

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Good Morning Dr. Robinson, I'm so happy you agreed to discuss your new novel, Breakthrough, with me and readers of Book Readers Heaven. I admit I enjoy reading fiction versus nonfiction, although I did ask for a sample of your Bedtime Stories book which sounded fun. I understand you switched to fiction, hoping to get your ideas more into the mainstream through a good story. I can agree it's a good story, but have you found that you are indeed getting a bigger response to the novel as opposed to your nonfiction books?  Personally, I'd love to recommend it to church-related or other book groups--those who are willing and interested in exploring the inner life at the same time they are reading about characters who may have (or have) actually been involved in what is happening in the book. So you know the obvious next question...How much of this is autobiographical? 

Glenda, I only write about what I know personally: I lived most of the experiences in this book!

One of the first thoughts that came to mind when I started to read was whether this book was related to "New Age". One of the issues for readers is that, oftentimes, writers begin to use a different lexicon for what may be a regurgitation of older principles... When a close relative told me that Yanni was a New Age musician and I shouldn't listen to him--well, let's just say I kept the words in my mouth to prevent a family quarrel. But, I do know semantics is often the basis for problems in communications, So could you explain the basic philosophy of your book versus "New Age?"

As I understand it, New Age refers to... a wide ranging explosion of Eastern, Western, esoteric and alternative medicine ideas that began in the early 1970's. It seemed to reflect a popular need to break free of traditional theological models that felt too confining, prescriptive and intellectual to many who longed instead for a personal experience of spirituality. Like the Burning Man  festival, it was a creative movement by sincere and very independent seekers that supported nearly any path and never really attempted to became an organized religion, which would violate its free-for-all ethos. 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Burning_Man

Burning Man is an annual gathering that takes place at Black Rock City—a temporary community erected in the Black Rock Desertin Nevada. The event is described as an experiment in community and art, influenced by 10 main principles, including "radical" inclusion, self-reliance and self-expression, as well as community cooperation, gifting and decommodification, and leaving no trace. First held in 1986 on Baker Beach in San Francisco as a small function organized by Larry Harvey and a group of
friends, it has since been held annually, spanning from the last Sunday in August to the first Monday in September (Labor Day). At Burning Man the community explores various forms of artistic self-expression, created in celebration for the pleasure of all participants. Participation is a key precept for the community - selfless giving of one's unique talents for the enjoyment of all is encouraged and actively reinforced. Some of these generous out-pourings of creativity can include experimental and interactive sculpture, building, performance, and art cars among other mediums, often inspired by the yearly theme, chosen by organizers. The event takes its name from its culmination, the symbolic, ritual burning of a large wooden effigy ("the Man") that traditionally occurs on the Saturday evening of the event.


Certainly, We are living decades longer than ever before, but what is this new developmental stage for? Tom realizes that aging is enlightenment in slow motion, a death-and-rebirth journey that may even awaken planetary consciousness. The implications are awesome: A new kind of aging and perhaps even a new kind of human. In sum, aging can be the crowning achievement of human life.


A word that you used throughout the book is beliefs. I remained unsure of exactly what was meant since it was used so often. Specifically, you talk about giving up beliefs and allowing thinking to disappear (written as I understood it). Originally I thought you were talking about the rules and regulations--beliefs--of any particular religion. But then, in the dreams of two different characters, they were confronted by Jesus, which implied it was related to Christian beliefs, which I really didn't think you meant. So, could you share more about your intent in using the word beliefs?

By belief, I am referring to any ideational structure that comes between subject and object. When we look at a tree, we immediately upload our consensual ideas about trees. We name it, explain it, and move on. Looking at a tree in mystical consciousness is very different. We stop thinking, heighten and focus awareness directly on the tree, and examine its nature directly with a still and silent awareness. Then it's not just a concept, it becomes an experience - unique, astonishing, beautiful and personally impactful. This is not to say beliefs are bad, only that they create lenses that can take over our experience of reality.


Before I put you totally on the spot, I want to mention to you, and remind readers, that I consider your book as being the next step I've experienced through two previous books and interviews with authors... I've always been interested in religion, spirituality and interpersonal relationships, so I've always been reading, rejecting, accepting of issues that became important to me...

Then I read The River of Life by Lee Harmon with a full discussion on his book...

And a Personal Memoir, Prisoner of Belief,  by Dr. John Van Dixhorn, also with a discussion...(If you want to refer to either of these, the review is published first and the Discussion on the next day...)


Now Breakthrough has provided, perhaps, the last answers in my constant questioning of Why? What? How? Why? So, Dr. Robinson, I hope you'll bear with me as I dig deeper into what is provided in your book! 

Paul came into Tom's life as a client. Your choice to create Paul as a nonprofessional, somewhat dominated husband of a very religious woman, I found to be very interesting. I could guess, but, please, why did you choose a man such as Paul to deliver the issue into Tom's head? Again, though coincidentally in the book, you next had Tom go on a Vision Quest, which is most times associated with Native American  culture. In fact, each of your characters appear to be uniquely created to pinpoint some issue that you wanted your readers to see. If I'm right, would you mind clarifying and explaining your thoughts, please.

Great questions. I wanted a character that would reflect the mystical experience in a pure way, without a lot of intellectual baggage. Tom was full of intellectual baggage. He had lots of training, diagnostic categories for every condition, opinions on everything, but his model of the world was completely derailed by Paul's mystical consciousness. It didn't fit anywhere. Tom and his colleagues kept trying to reduce it to a psychiatric condition, which is what psychiatry actually did historically. Happily, Paul's experience began instead to undermine Tom's secure grasp of reality, a necessary step in the evolution of personal spirituality and consciousness. If we are stuck with a rigid model, we wont' learn anything new. I loved Tom's decision to go on the vision quest. He naively thought it was just a retreat of some sort that would give him space to think more; instead his thinking was further unglued. And yes, each character was created to carry a point of view about the spiritual journey. I loved the freedom of getting to speak from many different voices.

Your professional experience appears to have been planned very carefully. For our readers, how do you see each area of specialty as it relates to your life and your books? Specifically, what is the relationship between each?


I grew up in a family dominated by science, psychoanalysis and intellect, and critical of religion, yet I was always drawn to ultimate questions: why are we here, what is life, what is suffering? I pursued psychology because I sensed it held some of the answers but really I was biding my time until I was old enough and the culture free enough to explore more metaphysical ones. Gradually I shifted my work from traditional practice to more experiential possibilities including the mythopoetic men's movement and the integration of psychotherapy and spirituality. I returned to school for a Doctor of Ministry degree and interfaith ordination in order to balance my training and enhance my credibility. 

And yes, the distinctions between psychology, religion, spirituality and mysticism are important. Psychology studies human thought, emotion and behavior, and clinical psychological seeks to understand and treat psychological suffering. 

Mystical experiences like Paul's are the source of all authentic religion. Jesus, Buddha, Moses, Muhammad and countless others all had profound mystical experiences; their revelations turned into world religions. Less enlightened followers conceptualized their experiences, hoping to understand, teach, and repeat them. In the process, they created theologies that were often more about the personalities and beliefs of the theologians than about God, leading to considerable misunderstanding. 

This is an important recognition to me...It fits! It explains many of my "why" questions...

Fortunately, mystical consciousness allows us to re-experience a religion's original truths and distinguish them from Ego-derived proclamations and dogma. Spirituality refers to our personal understanding of ultimate questions. A congregation of 300 people may have one religion but 300 different spiritual interpretations.

That last sentence is also an important statement. How many times do individuals speak to others with what can be considered judgmental statements..."You must do this or that before...or in order to..." when we really have no way to claim that we know that individual's relationship with God. I've always tried to live so that I didn't try to judge another person's beliefs...We can share them, of course, as you are doing, but unless we become intimately involved in discussion, I will not argue the legitimacy of another's beliefs... Thank you so much for sharing these thoughts!


What is your religion

I really belong to the mystical branch of every religion. The mystics are my brothers and sisters.

Well said.

One of the things that has evolved for me, based upon history as well as ongoing daily living, is the realization that few people other than atheists, do not question that God exists. It seemed to me that it was when each religion was "created" and the founder, scripture, etc., that you mentioned above becomes the foundation of that religion, that is when people started disagreements, churches split off, and wars began--most noticeably for the attempt to stuff that new religion down the throats of everybody else.   Your book discusses this, I think, very important issue in detail, but could you highlight your thoughts based upon your studies, please.

You are right. In America, there are over 500 different sects of Christianity: one religion, multiplying interpretations. Which is why I love the realm of mystical consciousness. We can each subjectively explore a religions teaching in our own first hand experience of the divine. Arguing about theological differences is usually futile. No one changes their opinion. And anyway, what is God's religion? Religion is a human invention - it can be very meaningful or very confusing and controlling. We each have to find answers for ourself and I suggest the best answers come from direct experience.

I, too, have come to that conclusion, although I'm still "allowing" myself to explore the ultimate of what it is that you describe.

One of my early personal ideas was that, for me, I thought we should have heaven on earth (seemingly more important than looking toward a far future, LOL). Your book, however, includes both! Yes!!! A much more palatable concept for me--but quite different from that which has been normally taught. I would admit, even more...that it feels "right" to my inner spirit...

Ok, I do have to stop and raise a semantics question. From my background, I believe the Holy Spirit abides within us. In other words, the Father, the Son and the Holy Ghost. For purposes of understanding your book, and with my own experience, would I be right to assume that the consciousness you discuss eliminated both the Son and the Holy Ghost and forges the connection with God himself? Or am I trying to fit my experience into your book's material. Help me, and others, understand, please.  

The mystic seeks direct experience of the divine. We can call the divine any name that feels comfortable, but if we get too complex and conceptual, we begin to worship our ideas more than divinity. I have always been interested in experiencing God directly. When I studied accounts of first hand mystical experience, I was amazed by the clarity and consistency of their reports. This was much more empirical, much less theological. The Ego likes complexity because it feels important, powerful, superior. They mystic likes direct experience and has little or no false self to prop up with beliefs.

Certainly an experience that calls to our inner being, doesn't it?!

I'm interested in the evolution of your studies...were you religious prior to becoming a student of mysticism? If not, have you also studied traditional religions, so that you could compare the lexicon of mysticism with religious groups? It seems to me that the terminology could become a stumbling block because of the confusion. 

For instance, the author of Prisoner of Belief had left his religious training and experience behind and is now a clinical psychologist. When I described a personal experience, he noted that it was more mysticism than, as I had referred to it, as gifts of the holy spirit. For myself, I tend to not worry about what something is called by one group versus another, but it seems to me that a lot of "reinventing the wheel" takes place when, in rejecting religious experiences as different from what is in essence, at least to me, the mystical side of all interaction with God, that we fail to take advantage of considering the experiences of many who have just not realized and been able to explain some experience they went through.

Paul, for instance, sought help, fearing his mental health. Tom, then, went into extensive research and interaction with various individuals that could have had some experiences that he had now begun to have. If we have to stop and think...consciousness equals God contact...what's this new thing that this new author is writing about and how does it differ from what I already have experienced in my life?

I have always wanted to simply religion and spirituality, to find the experiences that gave birth to knowing. Countless books have been written on theology from so many different religions, but who has been personally touched by all this thought. If unity is true, and all religions embrace the idea that we are one, then we have to be made of the same stuff as God. If we can feel the being of our being, and become conscious of our consciousness, we are directly in touch with this oneness, and this experience is transforming. We are not who we think we are, we are the embodiment of divinity. The

mystic Meister Eckhart said, "God is the being of my being. My truest "I" is God." This, too, is an archetypal idea, it just happens to threaten those committed to dualistic beliefs. This "new thing" is just the pure first hand experience of what is.

Eckhart von Hochheim O.P. (c. 1260 – c. 1328), commonly known as Meister Eckhart [ˈmaɪ̯stɐ ˈɛkʰaʀt], was a Germantheologian, philosopher and mystic, born near Gotha, in the Landgraviate of Thuringia in the Holy Roman Empire.
Eckhart came into prominence during the Avignon Papacy, at a time of increased tensions between monastic orders, diocesan clergy, the Franciscan Order, and Eckhart's Dominican Order of Preachers. In later life, he was accused of heresy and brought up before the local Franciscan-led Inquisition, and tried as a heretic by Pope John XXII. He seems to have died before his verdict was received.[citation needed]
He was well known for his work with pious lay groups such as the Friends of God and was succeeded by his more circumspect disciples John Tauler and Henry Suso.  Since the 19th century, he has received renewed attention. He has acquired a status as a great mystic within contemporary popular spirituality, as well as considerable interest by scholars situating him within the medieval scholastic and philosophical tradition.


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On the other hand, I must admit that I've been looking at things differently as a result of the aging process. Much you've written about in your book, including, for instance, studying your own hand, has become a part of my own experience. And I agree wholeheartedly with the recommendation to allow things to happen as they do... But then, why did you write your book, LOL? 

I write because it grows me to write. I write because I have to. It's the work of my soul. There is a compass in my psyche always pointing to the ultimate, so I keep following it. Aging is just the next expression of this process. It, too, is sacred, mystical, amazing, beautiful, and profound. I live more and more in a sacred reality and I believe this is our spiritual destiny.   

How does this book reflect what you call the New Aging in America--and exactly what do you mean by that?

I suppose this work is an extension of the same creativity that fueled the New Age movement, though I don't' need to label it with such categories. Categories are part of the belief process that divides and confuses us. I am just happy living it and inviting others to do likewise. 

Ahhh, a perfect way to finish our discussion... Or look forward to another one! Thank you so much for spending time with me and readers of Book Readers Heaven--here on earth, LOL! You've fueled me with so much. Indeed, to repeat your last statement:  I am just happy living it...

It's been a pleasure sharing my work with you. I hope my responses were sufficiently on target. Your questions are wonderful, your journey has obviously been rich, and I hope our paths cross again in the future. Thanks for your interest!

Best wishes, John



Tuesday, July 7, 2015

Body Parts by Janet Cameron Hoult Hits Us Where It Hurts--Really!

Our bodies, we were taught in Sunday School, were each a temple to God and we who had asked Him to come live within us were very aware of His presence. Still, unless you are athletically interested, many of us grew away from the Temple concept, didn't we?


Oh, many of us would have a "Come to Jesus" meeting, especially in church-sponsored weight Bible study programs, where we would prayerfully sing for Him to help us prepare our bodies for Him...



But I got to tell you, readers, nothing makes our bodies so intimately ours to consider than when it is aging...and, oftentimes...hurting...a lot! Sure, when we were young, most of us would be bothered by something that was quickly over and we would go back to our daily routines...  It is so much harder to see a young child become seriously ill, isn't it... because it's not what we expect to happen...

But aging? Everybody gets that disease! It may come in different flavors--pains and aches in one spot versus where it is in another's body...But, somehow, it is a comfort that we are not alone in the process our bodies are facing. And from Janet Cameron Hoult, we get some sound advice on how to handle it...Smile through it and even laugh if you can! Her two books on the topic, in poetic form, does a great job in leading our thoughts toward that goal... If you haven't read my review of Body Language, do click over after you finish with this article...




Body Parts:
A Collection of Poems About Aging


By Janet Cameron Hoult


I didn't find it surprising that this book was a winner of a Readers Favorite Award... Like I said earlier, we all have to face aging and it hits us early on or late, I guess partly due to heredity, but each of us can do things differently and affect how aging affects us...

Janet Cameron Hoult tells us to learn how to take it in stride... by simply mastering the pain and anguish and laughing at it! Of course, that isn't easy to do, but I'll wager that if you keep one of Hoult's books laying around...maybe in the throne room where we must all ponder our lives alone and most times in silence... that something within the book will hit home and before you know it, you'll be smiling! Maybe even a chuckle or two!

When I was heading out to get a pic of the cover, I found this blurb description on Amazon...in poetic form! Cool, right?!

BODY PARTS A Collection of Poems about Aging

Which body part will be the next
To make you think that you're a wreck
That you've gone so far over the hill
All you can do is take a pill

But wait! There's something else to try
Something to make you laugh, not cry
It won't add insult to injury
For it's a book of humorous poetry

Poetry designed to help us cope
To make us laugh, to make us hope
And remember that we have lots of "Heart"
Even if we're missing some "Body Parts"

So, pick up a book, find a comfortable chair and laugh along with the author and her poetry about our changing body parts - loss of hair, sight and hearing as well as knees, legs and some internal organs! These poems will tickle your funny bone and help you to remember that although we may be growing old there's life in us yet!
Great enticement for checking out the book, isn't it?! And I will promptly add my high recommendations to each one of you, no matter what your age! Why, I've even found it inspiring enough to create my own little poem, to be sung to the tune of Sanctuary...Hope you don't mind my sharing!
Lord Prepare me.
To accept this body
Old and slowly falling away..

With thanksgiving,
I thank you truly for
sending Janet's inspiration my way...

Lord, somehow you
Gave her needed strength to
Encourage us with humor to laugh

May we find 
Our own way to laugh, Lord
Then to rest with thee...evermore...
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Ok, I admit it, having to deal with my own body issues makes this a much more noteworthy book for me than for maybe some others... But I know there are many others out there who need to feel that somebody's there with you during your periods of being down and depressed... Let Janet Hoult help you through those times... Here's one that brought me a smile...

Have You Seen My Glasses?

Have you seen my glasses?
I know they're here somewhere.
I've already looked in the kitchen
And checked out the lazy boy chair.

Do you think the dog has snagged
Them and hidden them in his bed?
They shouldn't be too hard to find
With frames that are bright, bright red.

Please help me try to find them,
Your eyes are better than mine.
I've looked all over and really don't want
To waste any more time.

You're saying to look in the mirror
And my glasses will be there?
Well isn't that really something,
They they are nestled in my hair?

Thanks for your help in finding them,
Perched on top of my head.
Now I can see to get things done
And not have to work blindly instead.
!!!

Some of you may remember a posted statement of mine to show the humor I had found in this situation...Actually, mine includes more than glasses...it's keys, tea cup...anything I carry from room to room! Anyway, my response to myself to make it less frustrating was:
I've found a good thing about my constantly losing things in my home--my doctor wants me to walk more, so I'm doing what he wants while I wander from room to room trying to find the latest item that I mindlessly placed wherever I last was! LOL - we all have to adjust, don't we?!
Now if you don't mind talking about  every little thing that your body can do to betray you, here's another one that will hit home for women of all ages!


Leaky Pipes

Gone are the days
When I laughed with ease
And chuckled at jokes
Without crossing my knees.

I wish I could bend
Over with grace
And not have to squeeze
The trickle in place.

Oh muscles what happened?
I would like to know.
I want to control
When I need to go!
!!!

Now this little problem has plagued me for years...I even went to a specialist to have those spectacular all-knowing tests... At the end, I learned my bladder didn't evacuate! LOL...OMG... They had put me in a room which was at least 400 square feet... In a lone corner of a room was a toilet and wash basin...Nothing more in the room...Except one other door! Well, you could tell that it obviously opened up into another exam room and I automatically imagined that anybody could come through that other door at any time! Now tell me, would you have waited until your "bladder" was completely empty under those conditions? You guessed it, I never went back...Who was I to explain that their facilities did not allow the privacy that every woman needs to "empty her bladder completely!" Specialist? I didn't think so...

Another doctor told me I should practice Kegels...Do you know that that means? Well, here's Janet Hoult's thoughts on the matter!

Repair Job

Kegels and exercise
Don't do the trick
So, I'm off to the doctor
To get myself fixed.

A snip and a tug,
A mend of a tear,
My doctor has done it.
She's made a repair!

So tell me a joke
Something funny and rare.
I don't lead anymore
I can laugh without care!
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Responsive poetry by me...

Dear Janet, oh Janet, 
you certainly are brave!
If I was much younger,
I just might have caved
When and if a doctor said,
She'd snip and tug, mending a tear
But, now, at my age,
I've accepted my lot,
It just doesn't sound
like a surgery I'd want!
Actually, I've heard many opinions
All different it seems
My mind is at ease...
Leaky Pipes-- 
now, a pit stop, PLEASE!
!!!

Ok, it's obvious, I've enjoyed both humorous collections on the topic of aging by Janet Cameron Hoult... I hope I've convinced you that there's joy and fun in commiserating with another who's just as frustrated with the whole mess as the rest of us!

Highly Recommended!



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About Janet Cameron Hoult

Janet Cameron Hoult, Professor Emerita at California State University, Los Angeles, has lived and traveled all over the world. She attended high school in Iran, and universities in Lebanon, France, and the United States, with teaching assignments in Germany, Korea, Japan, Thailand, and China. Now in her seventies, Dr. Hoult and her husband, Charley, live in Southern California. Her poetry collection Body Parts: A Collection of Poems about Aging, also published by Outskirts Press, won a Reader’s Favorite Award. Proceeds from the sale of Body Language and Body Parts will go to the David Cameron Fisher Memorial Scholarship at CSULA.







Friday, July 16, 2010

Review: Pat Bertram's Daughter Am I Promises Great Weekend of Reading!

Pot of GoldImage by tao_zhyn via Flickr
Daughter Am I

By Pat Bertram


Second Wind Publishing
ISBN: 978-1935171195
304 Pages


Daughter Am II had just finished reading the new humorous book about aging by Jeanne Kraus when I turned to read Daughter Am I by Pat Bertram. With the frame of mind started by Jeanne, I have to say that I was totally prepared to enjoy Daughter Am I! First I thought it reminded me of The Wizard of Oz as the main character began picking up new friends along her way, but by then, I was totally hooked!

The story created by Pat Bertram is a well-written unique novel that is fun, encouraging, compassionate, as well as a laid-back adventure that led to looking for gold! Laid-back, you question? Welllll, most of the group are "elders" as described by the main character, Mary Stuart, so the health of each one had to be considered while all of the clues were found and put together. Sit back, while I tell you more...

Mary Stuart had just received word that she had inherited the estate of James and Regina Stuart. When she questioned this, she discovered that they were her grandparents! Her father had been estranged from them for years and had lied to Mary, saying they were dead.

Then she was even more shocked to learn that they had been murdered! And their house had been ransacked as if somebody was searching for something.

Mary was a quiet woman who normally didn't get too involved in dissension, but, she couldn't let this pass. She had to find out about two grandparents she had not had the opportunity to know! So she set off alone to find out more about them! And winds up looking for gold!

As soon as Mary announced to her family that she had inherited the farm, Bill, her assumed fiance, decided that it should be sold so that they could get married and make a down payment on their home. Then he tagged along when Mary went to see her inheritance, immediately calling it a dump--not endearing himself to Mary who was still upset for never knowing about them.

Finding an address book, Mary decides to find friends who knew her grandparents, to learn about them, trying to get to know them through their eyes. Her first contact was with someone who had done business with her grandfather who was a gunsmith.

Let me stop here and explain that the characters Mary meets drive this book--there is no way to adequately describe how, when and where she meets these individuals. So, for expediency, I will highlight that all of these individuals have a criminal background--one's a con man, one is a forger, one is even a hit man, etc., but Mary is the type of woman that accepts people as they are and cares about them and they respond to her. All of them have been living alone, some with little ability to buy food, yet she talks each of them into sharing whatever they know (even if it is a little bit at a time until they trust her) and she is able to proceed somewhere else to talk to somebody else. Soon, Mary realizes that she wants to find out why and who actually murdered her grandparents, especially after she discovers that their son (her cousin who she had also never known about) and his family were also murdered!

What's fun for the readers is that each new elder she meets decides, or is invited, to come along on Mary's journey. Mary soon finds out that those in her group have not necessarily given up their past activities. She is horrified, for instance, to discover at one point she is driving a stolen bus! (But they did need the extra space for the growing number of travelers...)

And then, at one stop, she meets a man about her own age, who takes an interest in everything that's happening and then later explains that he has part of the story and clues! Soon Many is so interested in him that she even forgets who Bill is!

Bertram has included quite a bit of history regarding the mafia, the use of gold coins in our early American history, and highlights much about guns used during the period, lending credibility and a breadth to the novel that greatly adds to the storyline. The ending is fantastic in my opinion--in fact, I loved the book! There is much for baby boomers to enjoy, but, the adventurous journey of a busload of elders and two young people falling in love really is one I'd highly recommend to a general audience. Enjoyment of a true treasure hunt is waiting for you in Daughter Am I by Pat Bertram! But gold isn't necessarily the treasure...

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Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Review:

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Wrinkles, Waistlines,

and

Wet Pants

By Jeanne R. Kraus

Illustrated by
  Diana R. Arneson


Somehow with retirement, I've developed more of a sense of humor than I ever had, especially about myself! So it was a fun, easy choice for me to accept Wrinkles, Waistlines, and Wet Pants by Jeanne R Kraus to read and review. Her sister Diana R. Arneson provided cartoons to complement the book and added greatly to its enjoyment. I warn you though, if you're not yet at the point where you are ready to laugh at your life--you just might wind up crying. Forewarning complete!

The author asks that we keep in mind:

Your outward body is showing signs of wear and tear.
Big deal.
Inside, you are probably rhe same fool you always were.
The difference is that now you don't have to care. (p. 3)
Wrinkles, Waistlines, and Wet Pants: Improbable Scenarios Of The Not-So-Rich And The Not-So-Famous 
Kraus begins talking first about dignity, asking "What's That?" And then proceeds to share her own story of slowly losing hers--through no fault of her own! Noting that this loss begins during child-bearing years and continues on with mammograms. She admits to trying to sound cool--"Read any good boobs lately?"(p.7); but not many medical staff have participated or assisted in her attempts at nonchalance.

Then Kraus tells us not to even try staying healthy. For instance, going to the doctor, she notes that by the time that we have filled out the medical record form that's required, only to not have it used by the doctor/nurse who attends us, she thought she would solve this problem for the next time so she created a doctor visit organizer to "attach" to the form. Now she had really done it, she had saved time for herself, but, by being efficient, had ruined the entire day's schedule. They were not happy--until they decided to keep her waiting for the half-hour she should have used to complete the form!

Noting that her ob-gyn had grown old like with her, Jeanne points out that he reminded her of Old Tim Conway as he shuffles into the exam room while Jeanne climbs onto the exam table...Well, you can imagine what Jeanne has to share after that!

And then there is the times when you compare with your mother (or sister or best friend) about being dizzy, sometimes falling and then having to figure out how to get up from the floor...

Let's not even go to the issue of "wet pants!" But she did give a helpful happy tip... singing "Gotta Pee" to the tune of the Willian Tell Overture...Try it, you'll realize how gratifying it is to finally get to the bathroom...

And then, she started sharing about going out to eat. Did you know that they now measure waistlines to ensure you are placed at the right table--thus avoiding the embarrassing possibility of getting stuck in a booth?

Of course, every discussion about what is happening to us ultimately includes a decision to begin an exercise regime--and then finding a trainer who is willing to put up with her idea of the program to be used!

Realizing that our memory is not as good as it once was is one of the things that isn't funny to me, I don't think--perhaps because it is the one thing I fear the most? Krause notes that we will all have memories, though, of those annoying things from childhood! "Itsy, bitsy, spider, went up the water spout...Down--well, you know the words, don't you?

Finally, she really got into the good stuff--that's when she and the Bunco Babes go out for the evening! Now, I really could get into some of those preparations--like, "bring your own toilet paper, don't eat the food", just feast your eyes on the men...(p. 177) BTW, that's at Abigail's Bar on Tuesday nights and don't forget to take lots of dollar bills...

Krause ends her book by looking back to childhood for those of us who are baby boomers. Yes, I enjoyed those memories along with her! In fact, I enjoyed the entire book and had my cat coming around to find out what was wrong whenever I LOL'd!

Want to have a book handy when you're singing the WT Overture? Add Wrinkles, Waistlines, and Wet Pants by Jeanne R. Kraus as a part of your permanent bathroom library...then, when you laugh, and pee, it won't be so bad...

You're goin' love this one!

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Sunday, March 15, 2009

Standing The Watch Wins Award! Cool!








The Big River Press News March 2009




Big River Press proudly announces




Standing The Watch: The Greatest Gift was awarded

First Place in the 2009 ReaderViews.com
Reviewers Choice Award

Memoir/Autobiography Category
Standing The Watch: The Greatest Gift
R. J. Brown
Big River Press (2008)
ISBN 9780979874437




Reviewed by Danelle Drake for Reader Views (10/08)

I will start by saying that this is one of the most beautiful books I have ever read. The writing brought me to tears with the loving way this leaving was embraced. As with many touchy subjects; death is not often discussed until it is upon us.

As written in Standing The Watch, "There's something about caring for our parents in their last days that's more spiritual than all the religious words any holy man could say. More rewarding than the fruits of any other work." This simple phrasing says it all. David and RJ Brown dedicate their lives to allowing his father, Lincoln, die at home with honor and peace.

Upon his death, RJ writes; "We quietly speak to Poppa's Spirit as we take care, for the final time, of his earthly remains and I sing songs for his departure, while Buddy-dog sleeps beneath the bed. David turns off the heater, opens the door so Poppa's Spirit is free to leave and lets in cool, clean, moist air."

Not only is Standing The Watch somewhat of a guide to home death with many informative, educational pages at the end for those who will be embarking on the journey, it is filled with compassion for those caring for loved ones regardless of their location. I highly recommend this loving book as I feel those who read it will grow as a person and open their eyes to all of the beauty that surrounds us.

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